It comes every year. But I’m never quite prepared.
Valentine’s Day is rough for me and I’m not sure why. It’s just one day. I know I’m surrounded by love. But it is not in the way I most want. I have family and friends who send me cards and gifts and think of me on this day, knowing it is a tough one for me. But I want a husband, a boy to find me delightful and think I’m rad. And I don’t have that.
So I get mopey.
My prescription for myself is to get out of my head, stay busy, have plans, and be thankful for all the love expressed on Valentine’s Day — and so many other days. I have a rad family and amazing friends who send me messages like this:
My other prescription is to determine to make someone else’s day. In the past I’ve offered to babysit so that a couple can go out together. I’ve sent oodles of cards to people who likely are in the same boat as me, single, mopey and disgruntled. I even buy the old school Valentine’s that I passed out in Kindergarten and give them to all my coworkers. Nothing helps me get out of my own head better than focusing on another person.
If Valentine’s Day is a tough one for you, know that you’re not alone. Make some plans for yourself, look for the love that is given, even if from an unlikely source, and determine to make someone else’s day. You’ll have a better day. I promise.