Archive from September, 2015
Sep 19, 2015 - My Story    2 Comments

The “Gift” of Singleness

Singleness: The dreaded gift.

People joke all the time, “If singleness is a gift, what’s the return policy?” I’ve thought about this for fifteen years. One summer I read the entire single living section of the Christian bookstore where I worked. I’ve heard authors for years tell me that singleness could be a blessing. But I often scoffed. I’ve been thinking a lot about marriage and the desire to be seen and known lately and I’ve been feeling that singleness is an unwanted calling in my life.

But this week I believed in the beauty of singleness in a new way.

But there are advantages and I was reminded of those last week. I was able to re-arrange my schedule to spend some time with some very dear friends. I accompanied them to Wycliffe and Legoland, enjoyed their children’s excitement and ingenuity surrounded by their beloved Lego bricks and mini figs. My friend, Abby, called me after they got home and said, “Kelly, thank you for using your singleness to bless us last week. I loved being able to bring you into our plans and enjoy lots of time with you. Your singleness is a gift to me.”

lego land, darth mall, abby

Those were the words which changed my mind. My singleness is not just about me. It’s not just what I long for or feel denied. I can use my time, energy, and resources to bless other people. My more flexible schedule blessed my friends last week. And I was immensely blessed in return to be a part of their family for a week. Moments and realizations like this make me appreciate where God has me in life right now even as I remain earnest in my hope for my own family someday.

Wycliffe, abby, valor, percy

What is an unwanted gift in your life? How have you been able to use it for good?

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How can you encourage someone else this week in their current station in life?

Sep 5, 2015 - Devotional, My Story    No Comments

Beginnings

Happy New Year!

Yes, I realize that it is September. Even though I’ve been out of school for quite some time, the fall still feels like a new beginning to me. My brain still functions on a semester schedule, even though my schedule doesn’t look much different in June versus October. I’ve been trained through years of schooling that the fall is a time for new beginnings. For getting organized. For starting a new challenge.

I could be frustrated by the apparent sameness of my life and schedule. A new year of school feels like an adventure. I would get all my school supplies organized. Get a new class schedule. Be surrounded by new people. And learn something new. It was very exciting! Sometimes I feel like adulthood is mundane, like a long string of Tuesdays back to back.  But I want some adventure. Some change. Some movement. I believe that our hearts are wired for rhythms, for ebb and flow, for expected fluctuations. Whether it is seasons, weather changes, holidays, or weekends. Expected changes and rhythm help us pace our lives.

 

I remember seeing everyone’s first day of school pictures on social media last year. From little tykes with their first backpacks headed to Kindergarten, to strapping lads bedecked with their collegiate best, and every age in between. This year, I wanted to join the party; so I snapped this photo!

first day of school

Yes, my schedule doesn’t change much. My surroundings aren’t completely different. But I can still celebrate new goals, new adventures, and new challenges in the continual journey of life. Happy New Year, everyone. May it be a great one!

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